If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I should have known better,” or replaying a decision over and over in your mind, you’re not alone. Many coaching clients arrive with a strong desire to move forward but feel weighed down by past missteps. Mistakes are Data, Not Judgement When people first hear about solutions-focused coaching, they often expect it to be all about positive outcomes and…
Emotions are an integral part of the human experience,even in coaching sessions.It’s not uncommon for my coaching clients to shed tears. Many see crying as a sign of vulnerability. Others consider it a sign of weakness. In the coaching context, it is a signal. It is a message waiting to be decoded. Unlike therapy, where the focus is on deeply exploring past pain, solutions-focused coaching…
When your coach asks, “What’s missing for you?”, what comes to mind? This is a question that often catches my coaching clients off guard. This because until that moment, they hadn’t even realized something was missing. This is one of the most powerful questions in coaching. Because it opens a door. It invites you to explore the space between where you are and where you…
Coaching does feel odd at first, especially if you’re new to it. The first session, and even the first few might seem like a series of questions rather than direct solutions. It can feel invasive or even frustrating, especially if you’re used to getting straightforward advice. But there’s a reason for this. Coaching Takes Time—And That’s a Good Thing It’s tempting to expect coaching to…
Leadership is often seen as a position of power, influence, and vision. From the outside, it can look like an exciting, dynamic role filled with important decisions and high-impact strategies. But behind closed doors, many leaders experience a different reality. They often feel isolated. Emotional stagnation is common. They quietly struggle to stay connected to themselves and those they lead. Leadership isolation isn’t just a…
Many of us struggle with the need for external validation. It shows up in personal relationships, the workplace, or even within ourselves. It’s natural to want recognition and acknowledgment. Still, relying too heavily on external feedback can be draining. This reliance can prevent you from fully living a fulfilling and authentic life. The Cycle of External Validation The need for external validation often starts innocently….
Every January, gyms fill with eager resolution-makers, yet by March, treadmills gather dust. Why do so many well-intentioned goals fizzle out? When it comes to achieving goals, the DIY approach is tempting. It feels empowering to map out your path, set your own deadlines, and hold yourself accountable. But as a professional coach, I’ve seen firsthand how going solo on your goals can lead to…
Coaching often operates on the powerful belief that you already hold the answers you need to make meaningful progress in your life. But what happens when you don’t? What happens when your goals require knowledge, experience, or data that you simply don’t have yet? Does coaching stop being effective? Let’s talk about what happens when the solution isn’t immediately within you—and how coaching can still…
Coaching can sound like a way to reach goals faster or become more productive, and that’s often how people first approach it. They’re looking to level up in their career, get some work-life balance, or maybe improve a few personal skills. And honestly, coaching can do all that. But there’s a twist: once you’re in it, you start to realize that coaching isn’t just about…
We’ve all had those days where everything feels like it’s too much. It’s only natural to want to vent, just to let it all out. But here’s the thing: when it comes to your coaching sessions, venting might not be the best way to make the most of your time. Your coach is there to listen, absolutely. But venting can sometimes trap you in a…